My superpower? I’m glad you asked. My superpower is being a total human doormat. Apparently I’m incapable of saying “NO” and meaning it. I might say no, but I rarely have the ability to follow through with it.
Person: I need you to do (insert imposition here) for me.
Me: I can’t right now.
Person: Come on, just this once (this is actually the 30th or 40th time I’ve done this for this person)?
Me: Ok…I guess if I rearrange my (insert life, finances, time, procedures) I could.
That’s my curse, I’m competent and reliable…and a pushover. Family, friends, and coworkers all know they can abuse my good nature and I’m not going to say a thing.
Standing up for myself has never been an easy thing for me to do. At 44 years old I’m realizing that I need to be more willing to say no and actually stick to it. It’s really true that nice guys finish last…because we’re always doing our work and everyone else’s too.
From now on, NO isn’t a word that means maybe in my vocabulary. It means that after careful consideration, I feel that the cost/benefit ratio of the proposal is too far in the cost column on my ledger and I will require a more balanced proposal before I agree.
Winston Churchill said, “If you’re going through hell, keep going.”. What if that place is worse?
Every time I think the worst is behind me, another larger obstacle seems to crop up and impede my path. I constantly feel like a man stuck in the desert chasing mirages.
Recently, I’ve seen a lot of tweets and facebook posts from folks on the Republican side telling celebrities to “Shut up, nobody wants to hear your political opinions. You’re just an actor, do your job and keep your political opinions to yourself!”. First of all, you need to realize that actors, celebrities, recording artists, and authors are full fledged human beings…they have every right to their political opinions, just like you have the right to yours. If you don’t want to hear their opinions then don’t listen.
The audacity to think that because someone is a celebrity, that they somehow matter less or that they are somehow less of a person because of their job is ludicrous.
We all must be afforded the opportunity to speak our minds. It doesn’t matter if you are rich, poor, Republican, Democrat, Independent, immigrant, gay, straight, black, white, Hispanic, Asian…whatever, we all deserve to have our voices heard. That’s one of the great things about America, you have the freedom to speak.
Today is Inauguration Day. I’m filled with such anger, worry, and sadness that I refuse to even think about Twittler today and so instead today I’m only posting positive things. Rest assured that tomorrow I’ll resume my posting about his many downfalls, but today I can’t even.
So here’s some things that make me smile:
The Overwatch community continues to surprise and delight me. This tribute to a fallen player is both moving and a terrific way to pay tribute to their lost friend.
Via-Kotaku by Nathan Grayson
Our first close up of Saturn’s little moon Daphnis
Via-Gizmodo by Rae Paoletta
Via-Daily Kos by Mark Sumner
Could Trump and Putin’s bromance be any more obvious? I mean get a room guys. It’s so sweet how Putie sticks up for his little Trumpkin!
Seriously though…I never thought I’d see the day when a Russian dictator would be standing up for the PEOTUS.
Via-Towleroad News by Andy Towle
Yet another case of a gay man being attacked in Texas.
This is just one of the many reasons my husband and I are trying to get out of Texas as soon as possible.
Via-TechCrunch by Taylor Hatmaker
Anybody really surprised that Trump isn’t going to divest his holdings to avoid conflicts of interest? No? Didn’t think so.